Finding the right moments can often be hard but they are necessary. Those intense moments where you are sharing your most vulnerable moment and making space for truth... It all can be nerve-wracking while pushing our relationship deeper because there was space for us to grow together in those moments.
It is these moments that helps us understand each other outside of our titles and despite of our differences. Through the past couple of months, I have shared many of these moments which have caused me to realize I have been advocating for my inner child, those I could not protect, and those I protected against their desire.
Some people may wonder what is wrong with advocating for people against their will. Consent builds trust. Sometimes doing things without consent can cause more damage mentally than most people imagine. Sometimes consent isn't necessary, but it takes experience to determine when a person wants help and cannot verbalize it and when someone is not strong enough to transition from who they currently are and what they're currently going through.
Listen!!! When I tell you! In my next book 'Choosing Me', I will break down how through advocating to others, I simultaneously advocated for my inner child giving myself consent to speak up in my situations. I'm still learning to speak up in a loving manner and without suppressing, but that comes with practice. Right? Below are two different versions of a conversation that became a reflection. If it makes you reflect on someone. Copy it and send it to that person!
WE ARE HEALING ALL 2024!
At your age, I only desire to be the person I wish was there for me.
This message is to apologize if I needed to verbally reassure you of anything in the moment and I overlooked it in order to verbally protect someone else’s ego. I do it with everyone. I allow space for people to show me their true selves and I adjust accordingly without addressing things. I don’t like conflict but when things get too bizarre for me…
Talking things out and addressing boundaries is part of my love language.
So, I say,
At any time, you want space to truly express yourself, even when it’s me…
I’m here‼️ I love you and I’m proud of you💕
As a Sistah,
I only desire to be the person I wish was there for me.
This message is to apologize if I needed to verbally reassure you of anything in the moment and I overlooked it in order to protect someone else’s ego. I do it with everyone. I allow space for people to show me their true selves and I adjust accordingly without addressing things. I don’t like conflict but when things get too bizarre for me…
Talking things out and addressing boundaries is part of my love language.
So, I say,
At any time, you want space to truly express yourself, even when it’s me…
I’m here‼️ I love you and I’m proud of you💕
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